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Becoming an alpha male: The most important characteristics of the alpha male - and 8 tips for your behavior

Even if this traditional male type has gone out of fashion in recent years, we all know the truth: the girls like leaders - real lead wolves who know what's going on. So you have to become an alpha male to cast a spell over and seduce women.

In this article, I'll tell you the secret of how to become this sought-after alpha male. I will explain the characteristics to you and give you 8 tips on how you can change your behavior from today - towards concentrated masculinity!

What is an Alpha Male? Definition and meaning

Sure you've heard the word many times, but still you might be wondering, “What is an alpha male? What are his characteristics? ”We all have a rough idea of ​​this:

It has to be a real devil who jumps out of bed at 6 a.m. and does 100 push-ups with his toned body ... an attractive guy who is always in a good mood, earns millions as a corporate boss and flirts tons of women while flirting ...

Even if that was a bit of an exaggerated cliché: To be honest, we're all pretty jealous of this guy and want to become the same - at least a little.

The strong alpha animal and the beta male

In fact, the term "alpha male" is borrowed from the animal kingdom, where the term "alpha animal" is used. As a definition, one understands this as the leader of a herd or a pack, for example wolves or gorillas.

The so-called beta males are subordinate to the leader. These secondary creatures have bad cards when it comes to looking for a partner: they have to let the lead animal take precedence in mating and then take what is left over.

The human world: type "alpha male"

In the narrower sense, an alpha male is the leader of a group that you meet in positions of power, especially in professional life. There are such leaders in the private sphere as well as in groups of friends, sports clubs and music bands.

But the meaning of alpha male can also be taken further. Then one understands by this a male type who generally has all the characteristics and characteristics of an attractive masculinity.

Conclusion: If you want sex, you have to be male ...

Either way, with humans it is like in the animal kingdom: women with their fine "antennae" instinctively recognize alphas like a needle in a haystack and prefer these bellhammers to beta men.

So you should definitely become an alpha man so that the ladies are at your feet. Only in this way will the girls show you the eagerly awaited “willingness to couple” (= sex) when flirting and in a relationship.

The classic alpha male: behavior and traits

Before I tell you how you can change your behavior and become a real man, you must of course first know where you are going. In other words: what qualities you have to develop in order to become this type that women are into.

That's why I've put together the most important characteristics of the alpha male:

1. Real leader qualities and status

Of course, the Alpha has the highest social status in a community - whether in a private circle of friends, in a couple / family relationship or at work.

To do this, he puts himself at the head of a group. And NOT through scheming behavior with hitting and stabbing, but by taking responsibility for the well-being of everyone involved as a protector.

It doesn't have to be big. For example, he's often the one who drives the car on joint ventures and brings all tipsy friends home safely after a night of partying.

More knowledge and competence:

However, he often achieves his position of power through special abilities with which he is superior to the other group members.

A classic example of competence is the mountain guide: as a local knows the steep passes and slopes and can go ahead to bring the tour group safely to their destination on the hike.

The so-called beta males and females recognize its outstanding qualities. They follow his advice and willingly (!) Submit to him because they trust him and feel safe under his leadership.

2. Make bold decisions

One of the characteristics of this behavior is to follow a clear path and to make unambiguous decisions that lead him to HIS personal goal. The alpha male doesn't go around saying "I would have" or "could I" ...

He takes the necessary courage and makes a crystal clear decision, also at the risk of landing a hard grip on the toilet.

Even if he has bought the wrong share, the price of which then rushes into the basement ... But then at least he has tried it, has gained valuable experience and can correct his course further in the direction of success.

He is also the maker and decision-maker when it comes to dating and relationships with women. He suggests ideas to the lady about where to go on vacation, which film to watch in the cinema in the evening or which restaurant to go to for dinner.

3. Dominance: Take what you want

The classic alpha male is dominant and takes what he wants. At the sausage counter in the supermarket, for example, he says with a smile to the butcher's specialist saleswoman: "The roast slice is thin - you can cut a slightly thicker slice!"

But much more important when it comes to the characteristics: He also takes courage in love (in a figurative sense!) And is not afraid when it comes to flirting with women.

Most guys are just too hesitant and shy. At some point after the 3rd date you ask the woman very carefully with her hands folded in her lap what she is feeling and how things should go on ...

Not so the Alpha. Right from the start he flirts aggressively with compliments and physical contact (without being intrusive) in order to seduce the woman as quickly as possible.

In the relationship, too, he does not ask for sex with an application form, but understands how to lure the woman towards the bed with the power of touch.

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4. Sexy charisma as an alpha male

Not that we misunderstand each other when it comes to these characteristics: the male / human lead gorilla is dominant, but not aggressive, blackmailing or otherwise tyrannical.

His charisma is friendly as long as you don't annoy, irritate or try to cheat him. He seems relaxed and convinces people with his charm, so that they willingly subordinate themselves to him and follow him.

The humor is also not neglected with him ... So he always creates a positive atmosphere in which other men as well as women feel comfortable.

5. Sociability and people skills

The alpha male is really not a loner who crawls into his rabbit hole out of fear and mopes. People appreciate him for his sociable behavior and the witty conversations he has to offer.

When flirting, at parties, but also at work, he knows how to entertain and - of course - also leads the conversations that are always interesting with him.

That is why the party guests or colleagues like to be close, for example when he tells the funny story of the wasp sting on his last surf vacation.

He can just as well moderate serious conversations and discussions in order to settle disputes. Here he also has power and influence:

People like to hear his opinion and trust his judgment, so he leads the heated debate to a happy ending that ultimately makes everyone happy.

6. The body language of the alpha male

In general, his posture is turned towards the person he is speaking to and he looks his counterpart confidently in the eye (without staring like two revolver duelists in a Western).

One of the dominant characteristics of the alpha male is an offensive, expansive body language. He does not stick his arms in his pocket, but gesticulates openly to underline his statement and to express his will to lead.

When sitting, for example in a restaurant or on the train, it also takes up a lot of space and spreads arms and legs (without constricting or pushing other people).

Likewise, his body language is very open when flirting. He does not shy away from physical closeness to the woman, but sits down next to her at the right moment and quickly initiates contact in order to seduce the queen of hearts.

8 tips on how to become an alpha male when flirting

I have already explained in another article how you can become more masculine overall.

First of all, the right behavior as a leader: Do not try to become an alpha male by aggressively pushing male competitors aside and forcibly placing yourself at the head of the group like a dictator.

This form of power has nothing to do with real leadership. Because as I said: the "beta males" and "females" follow the alpha animal voluntarily because they trust him, sometimes even admire him and feel safe and secure with him ...

Remember: You are NOT subordinate to him through fear or intimidation. This is an essential difference that you need to understand first of all!

1. Become the leader of your group

I don't necessarily mean the absolute dominance that you determine everything. As I said, the dictator number doesn't work. When it comes to behavior, a "gentle" nudge is required to steer your people in the right direction.

So far, out of comfort and uncertainty, have you preferred to send your friends to plan your evening party or vacation? It's over from today! Take the initiative and make suggestions as to where “the journey” should go.

And if you go somewhere together (for example to celebrate), you go ahead and are the first to enter the room ... yes, these small gestures also show the alpha man!

Likewise, you should be the driving force in flirting, dating, and relationships so that the woman can let herself go and enjoy your leadership.

2. Get more power in your job

In the job you can achieve a position of power by no longer selling yourself below value and sorting paper clips by color for the boss ... but also taking responsibility for higher tasks / important decisions and trying to get a promotion.

If that doesn't work in your company, you can also look for another employer where you can get a higher position with more salary and people “below you”.

3. Become protectors for men and women

If you are traveling as a group, always take care of the well-being of all group members. You achieve this by having a head start in competence and knowledge over the other men.

It is not for nothing that it is said: Knowledge is power ...

For example, you're in a strange city and tired and hungry after a long walk?

You have prepared yourself well at home ... and now you know the best restaurant in the area, where you can lead your rascals straight away while all the other guys are still desperately pressing their smartphones and searching Google Maps ...

Or if, for example, you get into an argument with shady characters somewhere, as an alpha man you can be the one who smooths things over and thus ensures the necessary security of the group again.

Of course, all of this also applies to a date with a girl and later in the relationship! Will you drive her home after the meeting? Then wait until she unlocks the front door and disappears into her safe four walls.

Your loved ones will thank you for such behavior. Women in particular love such fearless protectors because they offer the "weaker sex" the necessary security.

4. Gaining confidence in flirting

As already said: An alpha male does not hesitate, but takes exactly what he wants in a dominant way without much fear. Even when flirting, he “takes” the women he wants.

For your behavior, this means: Flirt aggressively and ride the "attack department". You should definitely overcome your shyness towards women, whether it is about speaking to them or dating.

Learn to address any girl you like. Even on a date, you shouldn't spend too much time talking about the bush, but give her clear compliments to understand that you are into her and seduce her with your touches up to the kiss and finally to sex.

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5. Practice confident body language

In addition to self-confident behavior, the characteristics of the alpha male also include self-confident body language (see above) when flirting and everywhere else in everyday life.

Always remember to walk upright! And practice keeping eye contact with other people (especially women!) Instead of looking shyly into the corner.

Of course, you shouldn't stare at your counterpart, but a raised head and now and then a look in the eyes doesn't hurt - especially pretty ladies appreciate this as a self-confident signal.

When you take a seat on the train or other public seating, don't crouch in the corner, but take whatever space you deserve (without spreading out like a macho).

In addition to your attractive body language, open, calm gestures with your hands and a friendly smile should also be added. So you have more charisma.

Take a conscious look at the physical signals other alpha men are sending out and first try to imitate their typical facial expressions and movements in front of the mirror!

6. Make clear opinions and decisions

Alpha men know what they want and have a mission in life. So set yourself goals and work to achieve them!

For example, do you want to build up a lot of muscle or learn a musical instrument again? Then make a plan for this and turn your dreams into reality.

You should also represent clear values ​​and opinions ... and express them honestly. Women love men who know what they stand for and who trumpet their views out into the world - even if they get tough headwinds for that.

7. If shy, become a sociable man

Up until now you have been alone a lot in a quiet little room or have you stayed in the background in discussions? Then you should finally venture out onto the “big stage” and show yourself from your sociable side.

Mingle with the crowd and talk to everyone! Visit parties, (sports) clubs and other events where people come together. Even if it seems strange to you at the beginning and you are still a bit shy:

Over time, you will develop your social skills, lose fear and learn how to deal with the opposite sex through flirting.

Then, in the next step, you can also start to dominate the conversation every now and then and share a joke at a party.

8. Observe the behavior of the alpha males

One more hot tip at the end: It is often very difficult for us boys to develop a feeling for how to behave properly as an alpha man.

We just lack the male role models who show us how to do it right.

Therefore, look at other alpha animals - whether in your personal environment (professional or private) or in a film.

There you can see exactly what characteristics these men have and imitate the positive (!) Characteristics of their behavior and their body language.

Even if it seems a bit artificial and inauthentic at the beginning: This "copying" is the easiest way - and over time the whole thing becomes an integral part of your new personality!

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