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Don't be so curious!

This week I am dealing with a thought that has haunted me for a long time, because I keep hearing this sentence on the street: "Don't be so curious!" The longer I think about it, the more serious I find this sentence. What is the reason we shouldn't be curious? What is curiosity anyway? What is curiosity good for? Three questions I want to answer this week.

Why shouldn't we be curious?

Many may also know this phrase from childhood. Children are particularly curious and inquisitive. You want to understand everything, learn everything and perceive even more. You keep asking: why? Why? What does that mean? Can you explain that to me? How does it work? I could expand this series of questions! If you think about it a little, it is noticeable that the warning contained in "Don't be too curious" actually means something different. Whether as children or adults: we shouldn't be brazen, pushy, indiscreet, snotty, nosy, cheeky or lustful for sensations. Sure: curiosity certainly also has the face of spying and eavesdropping. But curiosity is very important in development. Have you ever wondered what it would be like if there weren't any questions like the ones above? We would not question anything, learn nothing, develop nothing and, above all, always stand still.

What is curiosity anyway?

What exactly is curiosity? Curiosity is about having an urge to uncover something, to experience something. Something in us has a special need for an answer. Curiosity can also be referred to as interest. Depending on their interests, experiences and circumstances, everyone has such an interest in other things. Some are also more curious than others. Sometimes people are also curious about something that we don't even know ourselves. Curiosity can be increased through tension. But that is only the perspective of the questioner. Because the respondents are also involved in the communication. Questions can also generate interest on the other hand. Questions are one way to quench curiosity. We enter into a dialogue with one another through questions.

What is interest good for?

During my research, I came across how vital curiosity is. Have you ever thought about where we would be if it weren't for the phenomenon of curiosity? What we would not be aware of! Curiosity is also important in interpersonal relationships. What could be nicer than showing interest in someone else with your own interest? Think what it would be like if you weren't curious about your fellow human beings. You wouldn't care what your partner is feeling or doing. You wouldn’t get a dialogue, because you’re not interested in an answer. You have no questions for your counterpart. And on the other hand, your counterpart is just as uninterested. We all have no idea how to make someone happy or how someone is doing. What for?

Curiosity as a positive inner attitude

But if we recognize that curiosity in the form of a high degree of appreciation is a very important prerequisite for survival for us, then the idea of ​​being curious suddenly becomes important and positive. Curiosity as an inner attitude can be strengthened and used. First of all, it is important to develop the understanding that curiosity is not a negative thing. As is so often the case in life, it is a question of "how"! If we are appreciatively curious and interested in our fellow human beings, then curiosity is part of a good conversation. Our counterpart is happy that we are interested and we are learning from it. It becomes uncomfortable when curiosity turns into an interrogation. Question after question without going into the answer or evaluative questions that implicitly imply something or drive the questioned into a corner. As you can see, questions are a powerful tool. And not just for the questioner.

Admittedly: This article is a personal thought, but it might give you an impulse or the courage to ask even more questions and find out something about your environment, the people around you or the world in general. For myself, I have come to the conclusion to question the sentence "Don't be so curious" if it comes up again in my environment. I then ask myself: what could the questioner have against curiosity? Does he or she have something to hide or does he or she feel obeyed? Take a look, because we can learn a lot for ourselves from observing.